Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like you love yourself. ~Tara Stiles
There is having esteem for another person (regard highly; respect and admiration) and there is also having self-esteem for yourself personally (a confidence in one’s self; self-respect and self-value). The regard in which you hold yourself and others lends to the state of your unique health. How much you value yourself and other people, combined with how well you treat yourself and other people, will be reflected within your own bodymind.
Problems arise in that one has to find a balance between what people need from you and what you need for yourself. ~Jesse Norman
What does bodymind mean?
It is a term encompassing the whole person and the relationship between the human body and mind in which they’re viewed as a single integrated unit. The roles that our emotional, psychological, and spiritual states have on our physical and mental health are expressed through our bodily symptoms and manifested illnesses. There are practical ways to learn the language of your body so you can understand how your thoughts and feelings directly affect your physical wellness.
All of us are constantly receiving feedback from our bodies and responding to it. Some time ago, I wrote this article about how our bodies signal us with health clues through our senses: BODILY SENSES SIGNAL HEALTH CLUES. I have since further researched this subject of bodymind that fascinates me. Deb Shapiro’s “Your Body Speaks Your Mind- Decoding the Emotional, Psychological, and Spiritual Messages That Underlie Illness”, is the first book that got me started on my personal path of study.
How do unresolved pycho/emotional issues affect physical health? Thoughts and feelings are linked to specific body parts according to Deb Shapiro and she writes about the extraordinary intimate two-way communication going on that affects both one’s physical state and one’s mental and emotional health. Doesn’t it make resounding sense that these aspects of our humanness--emotional, psychological, and spiritual--are all connected to our physical wellbeing through an integrated unit of body and mind intricately working together as one bodymind?
I see this as the means for which the internal condition of our own body’s cells gets communicated to us. Many of the body’s systems produce subtle changes, which are not always immediately apparent to us. With practice, one can become mindful, or acutely in-tune, with their body’s senses making it easier to recognize changes that signal health clues.
Beyond the senses, bodily symptoms and manifesting illnesses also act like a relationship language between your bodymind and yourself. We can learn to interpret our body's signals and language of symptoms to increase our potential for healing. Think about the barometer this is to help realize more optimal wellness. We can begin to decode the priceless information our bodies give us. But we first must make paying attention part of our healthy habits.
Change is constant and inevitable regardless of whether we choose to initiate it or not. This is simply a natural universal phenomenon. Yet, if we are growing and learning, that equates to many changes coming with our own direction and possible terms (choices) to get to the results. To use a surfing analogy: I liken it to riding the waves on top of a surfboard in to shore rather than swimming in to shore alone when a wave comes over pushing one under with its force. Next coming up for air, but still treading water out there away from shore when it over! It’s either get with swimming to shore or pray to God a boat comes along soon for pick-up because treading water gets tiring and worn out before the next repetitive wave comes.
That brings back to mind having self-esteem and esteem for both yourself and others—it takes a balance of both to live healthy. When we have too much esteem for others and not enough for ourselves that keeps others high in priority and one’s self low in priority. Vice versa, when we have too much self-esteem and not enough esteem for others that keeps one’s self high in priority and others low in priority. Often these extremes can lead to a wide range of mental health conditions — disorders that affect your mood, thinking and behavior. Examples of mental illness include depression, anxiety disorders, schizophrenia, eating disorders and addictive behaviors. Poor mental health can lead to physical ailments such as headaches, gastrointestinal issues, back pain and more.
Balance is the key to everything!
Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like you love yourself—it’s healthy! Just stay mindful of your regard for keeping self-esteem and esteem for others balanced because each one of these are important in this life. It’s in the middle ground that we usually find the most win-wins it seems:
“I’m not sure about complete balance. I think that’s an enlightened stage of life. For normal folks, balance really means counterbalance. Notice when life gets out of whack for you and correct it.” -Anonymous
“Balance is the key to everything. What we do, think, say, eat, feel, they all require awareness and through this awareness we can grow.” ~Koi Fresco
Here is some more borrowed “Balance” wisdom:
“Self-esteem is a matter of balance. Too much can tip over into haughtiness, arrogance, and the inability to admit when we have gone wrong.” – Alan Schmidt, Confidence
“In all aspects of our lives balance is key. Doing one thing too much can cause upset, like the old saying goes, everything in moderation is the secret!” – Catherine Pulsifer
“We can be sure that the greatest hope for maintaining equilibrium in the face of any situation rests within ourselves.”- Francis J. Braceland
“We come into this world head first and go out feet first; in between, it is all a matter of balance.”– Paul Boese
By Judith Garner, Certified Health Coach
Helping people stay healthy inside & out!