I keep the telephone of my mind open to peace, harmony, health, love and abundance.
Then, whenever doubt, anxiety or fear try to call me, they keep getting a busy signal--and soon they'll forget my number. ~Edith Armstrong
It is a fact that there are many things in life that we cannot change. Here are some examples: the past; human nature; the laws of physics and mathematics; the weather; and much more. These are absolutely things that we cannot change under any circumstances because they are just part of life and nature’s permanent make-up. Have you been shown and accepted that you can only change another person if they truly want to change and have requested your help in making the change?
The idiom “it is what it is” comes to mind meaning acceptance of, or resignation to, a situation that can't be explained or changed. Emotions like doubt, anxiety, and fear manifest themselves when we carry on in denial of reality. Refusals to recognize what we cannot change, or do not have the power to change, are futile and can ultimately harm us mentally and physically. Yet, so many people spend an inordinate amount of their lifetimes trying to do just that—they try to change those circumstances that cannot be changed, or they try to change those people that will not change!
This can stir up negative emotion patterns that keep people stuck in a rut of frustration robbing them of peace, harmony, health, true-love, and abundance. The pain and suffering caused by nasty emotions (e.g. anger, resentment, sadness, depression, etc.) stemming from trying to control the uncontrollable, or change the unchangeable, are largely unnecessary. We can combat these urges when they occur by developing our willingness to: accept the things we cannot change, our courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference! In other words, we can grow our attention spans to remain mindful of the realities surrounding us always striving for emotional competence and the betterment of our well-being.
Regardless of your religious or spiritual affiliations, this Serenity Prayer (written in 1932 by theologian Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr, a professor at Union Theological Seminary in New York City) exemplifies how making sense of our emotions, helps us develop inner-strength, better relationships and balance in our lives:
God grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the Wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time.
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as he did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would like it.
Trusting that he will make all things right,
If I surrender to his will.
That I may be reasonably happy in this world
And supremely happy in the next.
This prayer illustrates the potential that we can keep our minds open to peace, harmony, health, love and abundance. By the way, I suggest people do this through their own ways of thinking, praying, or meditating; and through their own kind of spirituality and faith whatever it may be. The bottom line is: Let doubt, anxiety and fear get busy signals when they come calling!
By Judith Garner, Certified Health Coach
Helping people stay healthy inside & out!